If you live alone which I currently am everyone asks me if I get bored ! And when you say no I keep myself really busy they can look surprised and then presume I am watching omnibus episodes of soap opera’s ! If you then proceed in telling them what you do ( today I made a small rockery in the garden, I stuck some beads and canes onto the bags I make, and applied home made self tan to my legs while cooking myself bubble and squeak ! They give you this pitiful look and then continually message or ring you to see if you are alright !At least with some social media and blogging you can openly talk about your pursuits without fear of possible insanity stares or if fellow bloggers think your mad they will just bypass your blog and move on and your none the wiser.
This period of living alone is my first at the age of fifty and its only temporary due to work however I have come to the conclusion it should be made compulsory for everyone at least once in their lives. In this time i have discovered so much about myself it has been quite life changing. I have had time and space to get to know a person that I really didn’t know before and do you know what I like her ! She is able, talented and creative. I understand her needs wishes and desires, I know what makes her tick and I am enjoying her company.
Its made me think about relationships and can see how so many do not make it. If you have never been alone as an adult left home married or lived with another its possible its already in jeopardy. If I decide to have two baths in a day my partner may say ” Sue you had a bath this morning why are you having another one” now this may not be a criticism just an observation, however I am then likely to justify it some how and then question myself as to why I felt the need to bath twice and chances are I may never do it again. The other side of the coin is you are likely to question your partner if they took two baths in one day and why are you doing that ? This is just a small simple example, but I have come to the conclusion that you must know and understand yourself fully before you can even begin to understand anyone else. The saying goes you do not know no anyone until you live with them but this must apply to yourself before entertaining trying to understand and except any one else and their individual strange two baths a day habit !